WhyThe Spirit does not work in us through fear, doubt or guilt, so when we feel these things it is flesh or the devil.

I presume this is true beyond the immediate context : Rom 14:23  For whatever does not proceed from faith is sin.

For you to live by faith is to not trust in your flesh, but in God.

It is Gods job to convict you of sin

Php 2:13  for it is God who works in you, both to will and to work for his good pleasure.

So He will direct your will in the path He has for you.

Pro 16:9  The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps.

Jer 10:23  I know, O LORD, that the way of man is not in himself, that it is not in man who walks to direct his steps.

Therefore if you have prayed to God for guidance, are submitted to His will in all supremely, then it is His job to give you the desires of your heart.

Psa 37:1     Fret not yourself because of evildoers; be not envious of wrongdoers! 2  For  they will soon fade like the grass and wither like the green herb. 3  Trust in the LORD, and do good; dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness. 4  Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. 5  Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act. 6  He will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday. 7  Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; fret not yourself over the one who prospers in his way, over the man who carries out evil devices! 8  Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil. 9  For the evildoers shall be cut off, but those who wait for the LORD shall inherit the land. 10  In just a little while, the wicked will be no more; though you look carefully at his place, he will not be there. 11  But the meek shall inherit the land and delight themselves in abundant peace.

What else can you do?  So if you desire to be in this land. And are willing to go where God wants you and do what He wants you to do,
And where you are now is your desire and best thought to bring Him glory with your life and He has not convicted you of sin, then this is all you can do to know the will of God.
So rest in Him and press on in the work He has given you to do.

Did you not already count the cost before you went?  Then that work is now over. The land is bought, now till the soil, sow the seed and make ready for Him to raise a vineyard.
When doubts arise and you feel maybe I have put my children in danger:
Realize you are not powerful enough to endanger your children. What a shameful arrogant thought of your flesh. Mortify it.

For the children are God’s children, and will not our Good God do right by them?  Can you add one day to their lives by your decisions??
Is God still sovereign over all things and all your actions, your stupid mistakes and even your sins?

Then rebuke the doubt.
Or else give in to it and move somewhere else at once. But consider, where you can go to protect your children. Where can you take them to keep them from calamity?

Are they not safer in the Arms of Jesus where He wants you than anywhere you could seek to hide them?  Only a fool would trust his flesh and mind to accomplish this, for God has already set your appointed times to return to him and you cannot change or run away from that. Will you fare better than Jonah?

Yes God may choose to take you all home in calamity or persecution and extract His glory from you that way. Prepare your hearts often for the day of your death which will certainly come sometime; Plan now that how you die will be your very best sermon ever as you glorify God even in that to those who look on it.

But in the meantime give God glory by resting in His sovereign good care, confident you are doing His will or He would change your desires or move you.
Man of God, take up the shield of faith against these fiery darts and call rain down on them. There are chariots of fire filled with angels all around you waiting to protect you and tear down the gates of hell that you can enter and free the captives. The mind of flesh cannot see them, but you live by faith, not sight. Trust these promises not your weak flesh and mind.

He has told you He cares for the birds and lilies who do not fret over their death, and you are more precious to Him. Trust in this and be carefree of the world.  The wicked must worry about these things, but child of the king, you have no  such worry for God is able to feed you by ravens or blind your enemies. Why should you fear?

Read testimonies of the martyrs often and see  how God cares for His precious ones.

Would you trade the safety of a hiding your light under a bushel basket for the experience of Stephen as he looked up and saw heaven opened?  Do you think he even felt the sting of one rock?

Let this cause you to draw closer and closer to God in communion, and as a priest for your family to spend much time in prayer for them to Him as a means of His powerful grace being displayed to all of us. But do not doubt, or fear. That is not a means of grace, it is from the flesh and world, banish it at once, pay no credibility to it.  Let it not once more be listened to by you. Death to it and keep watch that it rise not up ever again but that slam the coffin shut on it.

So yes decide: is this the work God has called me to? That is a tough enough chore. You have entrusted yourself to the church, to other elders who have recognized your call and sent you. Then rest in your decision. Trust the Lord to do with you as He will.  Then let go of this and be about the work so He may give you fruit in due season.

Train the devil to not even bother trying to tempt you to deny God anymore with fear and doubt. You are already sealed for the kingdom as are your children, they are as safe in the Lion’s den as in a desert land or the Bible belt.
Jesus gives you His peace, enjoy it, do not let satan steal it.

We are all here praying for you as well, seeking to see God glorify Himself in the work you do. Call on us for help then trust God to work through all of our prayers as well as yours.  Blessed are your feet. Walk on in Peace and confidence with total reliance on God.

But before He gives you triumph, He must break you of all self reliance so He will get all the glory for what He does through you. Self reliance also looks like doubt, as if you are capable of making a wise decision or knowing what course would be safe. Safety is an illusion. Hide rather in the cleft of the Rock; there is no safer place for your family. There is no safe physical location but the person of Christ. Pray your children into Christ. Pray Christ into your children. There is nothing safer you could do for them than pray.
Joh 15:5  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.
6  If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are burned. 7  If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it shall be done unto you.  8  Herein is my Father glorified, that ye bear much fruit; so shall ye be my disciples.

Do not be discouraged if you do not see much fruit soon, for the Lord is pruning you making you a strong tree to bear much fruit. It is not the amount of fruit that brings Him the most glory it is the beauty of the humble tree, pruned into submission and total trust in the Master’s hand. He is also throwing a lot of dung around you to strengthen you for this purpose. So drink in the trials as nourishment though they be with tears. Even Jesus wept for the lack of faith in the people.

As Peter said, wash all of me Lord, so you can say: more dung, cover all of me if that is what it takes that I may be full of faith and never waver. That I may never quench the Spirit or embarrass the angels watching me. If you only really knew and could see how safe and cared for you are.  So live out of that by faith knowing the chariots of fire are about until one day you see them. You are already a citizen of heaven where there are no more fears, no more tears, so seek to live out of the heavenly citizenship rather than the concerns of the short pilgrimage.

If you would have your children be safe, then be this example of faith realized into your experience so they may be truly safe in Christ full of faith and trust as you have modeled.

Let Him examine your heart and sift you, burn the last bit of dross from your gold. When you see that you are nothing and powerless, even to protect your children, then He can show us all His glory through you.   So use this blessed time to sanctify and mortify your flesh as well as minister the word to others.  You do not know the work God has for you.
Wait on the Lord, actively diligently, expectantly, wait on the Lord using the means you have available.
Cry out to Him like a child who has no ability and needs His father to rescue Him, then trust Him that He will be the God He promised to be. This is faith, until then life will be lessons to get you there. As the Baptist realized, I must decrease that He may increase. So we must die to self, self reliance as if we could change anything. And live only out of trust in His work through us.

I know you know these things are true but, 2Pe 1:12  Wherefore I will not be negligent to put you always in remembrance of these things, though ye know them, and be established in the present truth. 13  Yea, I think it meet, as long as I am in this tabernacle, to stir you up by putting you in remembrance;